February 22nd, 2009
when do you call someone a BESTFRIEND??
It started on my last semester in college. I was just looking for someone I can go home with after my class. A common friend told me that Jacky and I live in the same area. So I went out looking for her. We were both pre-law students and belonged to the same college. We have a lot of common friends, but only got together once. She was a returning student and I was a graduating student, but we were of the same age. Since that day on, we went home together till I graduated. We hung out at coffee shops before going home. Sometimes we skipped meals just so we can afford to hung out or go on clubs and bars, even on a weeknight. We hung out in each other’s houses after school and on weekends.
When I graduated, we planned an ultimate summer getaway in Baguio and Pangasinan. Since we were both from Pangasinan, it was easy to plan that trip. Though we don’t have a lot of money, we still managed to have fun. I was done in school but we didn’t lose communication. Our gimmicks even more escalated. I didn’t go out to look for jobs right away because I waited for her to finish school. Aside from the fact that I was doing something else than getting employed.
She saw me meet guys after guys after guys. She has seen me in my worst. She listened to every drama I said. She saw me cry over a lot of things.
We cried together. We laughed harder together. We mocked and made fun of people together. We hung out with more friends together. We drunk and smoked together. We did a lot of crazy things together. We partied and went clubbing together. We lied together. We were partners in crime.
But I denied her when people thought and called us bestfriends. For me, she didn’t pass my categories of a bestfriend. I didn’t know why. I have like five bestfriends, but that didn’t include Jacky. I’ve made deep friendships with a lot of friends. I have a lot of good friends, and equally I’ve had a lot of “so called friends”, which I learned to avoid over the years. As I think of it now, I realized maybe I didn’t call her a bestfriend because for me she was more than that. She was more of a sister to me. People sometimes say we look alike, and thought we are actually sisters. I have two sisters, and she was like one. I shared a lot of things with her, except boys. Harhar!!
Our friendship was tested a few years ago. We were unable to save our friendship because a lot of people was surrounding us. A lot of things were said and we didn’t have the chance to clear that up. She got married and started a family in Australia. I was left here. We stopped communicating but we weren’t fighting anymore. We tried to be friends again, when she was here for a holiday. But my current boyfriend at that time didn’t want me to be friends with her. He told me I should avoid her because she was a bad influence for me. I did what he wanted me to do. I lost him, but Jacky was still there for me. Now that she has her own family, I’m glad that we managed to be friends again. I’m glad that her kids are fond of me, and I’m also glad that I’m friends with her husband too. I’m happy for whatever she has and what she is.
The times we spent always make me smile. Our past made us better persons. I’m glad we were able to surpass the test of friendship. I hope we can be friends until our hair turns gray. I hope our kids (mine:to be) will be friends too. And though a lot of people are jealous of our friendship, I hope they won’t be able to destroy us again. I can now say to her my favorite line since 12 years old..Friends till hell freezes!!
